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The Billy Boss Show – Where Healing Builds Confidence
#106 How to Achieve Your Health Goals with Visualisation
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What if your health goals are not only built through action, but through the version of yourself you keep rehearsing in your mind?
Most people approach healthy living backwards: they try stricter plans, more discipline, and cutting out favourite foods before looking at the beliefs, thoughts, and emotions driving their patterns. Join the Healthy Living Challenge HERE.
Health journeys often begin with pressure, shame, or the belief that confidence can only come after your body changes. But if your mind is still picturing failure, inconsistency, or a version of health that does not feel possible, it becomes much harder to follow through in real life.
This is where visualisation for health goals can become powerful.
Billy guides you through a calming visualisation practice to help you connect with your dream health, picture your healthiest and happiest self, and begin aligning your daily choices with the person you are becoming.
If visualisation has ever felt uncomfortable, vague, or too far away from real action, this conversation will help you see it differently. Instead of using visualisation as wishful thinking, you will begin to understand how it can support clarity, belief, self-trust, and the small choices that create lasting wellbeing.
Listen now and discover how to achieve your health goals with visualisation, connect with your healthiest self, and begin building your dream health one intentional choice at a time.
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The 3 questions before a healthy living journey
Billy Bossin our last episode, I hope, I really do hope that you listened to the last episode. So in our last episode, we shared three powerful questions that you need to ask yourself before embarking on your healthy living journey. So the questions were, what does health mean to you? What is the difference between having a healthy body and a perfect body? And what is preventing you from having the results that you do really want? So if you went through those three questions, if you're really taking time to meaningfully answer these questions, no doubt you would already have some breakthroughs by simply asking these three powerful questions. Now, if you haven't listened to the last podcast, I'm strongly encouraging you to check it out first because today's conversation will resonate so much more once you do. And not just to listen to it, but I want you to really take time to really meaningfully really think through and answer for yourself. What does health mean to you? And then again, you go into what is the difference between having a healthy body and a perfect body? Because somehow we thrive or strive for having a perfect body. We sort of want to fit this image that is exposed so much on social media, but yet it is not fitting in in our healthy journey. So and of course, the the third question that I have shared is like what is preventing you? What is preventing me from having such a result? So please, if you haven't listened to the previous podcast or previous episode, go through it, thoroughly answer these questions, and then join us on this session because as I said, it will resonate so much more once you go through the previous um episodes. So we've broken this topic into two parts, and there is a reason for it, and that is to help is any overwhelms. I don't really want anyone to get overwhelmed with how much it's to be done, but I also want to deliver something that you, once you apply in your life, you can walk away knowing that, hey, I've got a new tool, I've got a new strategy to help me in my journey. So after reflecting on those questions that I just mentioned before
Your next step: using visualisation for dream health
Billy Bosstoday, and here is your next step. If you've been on any uh part of my journey, but it's any trainings, programs, anything to do with me, this will feel familiar to you. And no doubt, once you started the journey with me, I'm sure you would say, Well, I know how it felt. I was very uncomfortable, it was a bit of a woo-woo thing. Um, I was maybe even embarrassed to do it, even though you were on your own, not in the group. So one of the most transformative practices that I've made part of my daily routine is you've guessed it, it's visualisation. So today I want you to apply this technique by focusing on visualising your dream health. So please don't dive into this exercise if you're operating any machinery or if you're driving. I want you to make sure that you are in the place where you feel safe to close your eyes and that you also can relax. Now, I know for some of you, this might feel a little outside of your comfort zone. And as I mentioned before, many of you starting journey with me, you felt the same way, and it becomes sort of a bit easier with the time passing. So it is okay if you feel a little bit uncomfortable to do to do this. So I just want to assure you, this is completely normal feeling for you to feel a little bit uncomfortable, especially for if you're doing this for the first time. But let me tell you, there is a real power in picturing your goals with a clarity and intention before turning them into reality. And let me tell you that one one more time. There is a real power in seeing yourself picturing your goals with clarity and intention before turning into reality. So, my friend, I'm inviting you to find a quiet space and let your friend Billy Boss lead you through this exercise. Let's step into this together. Your dream health is waiting for you, and I feel that this is the time of the year where most of us will have some new healthy goals. There is so much more coming in this episode that you don't want to miss. But first, I want to share this with you. This episode isn't just for you and me, it's meant to be shared. Now, if something in today's conversation inspires you, don't keep it yourself. Don't keep it a secret. Share with a friend, a loved one, or someone who needs to hear this message today. Post it, tag me, and let's spread the love together because you never know whose life you might change with just one share. And now more of this incredible conversation together.
Guided visualisation begins - breathing, grounding and releasing tension
Billy BossSo let's step into this together. So let's begin by finding a comfortable position where you can fully relax. Close your eyes if you're in a safe environment and take a deep breath in through your nose. Hold it for a moment and then exhale slowly through your mouth. Let go of any tension in your body with each breath. Continue this deep breathing for a few moments, allowing yourself to become more present. I will give you a couple of minutes. So take a deep breath in through your nose and exhale slowly through your mouth. Take your time. Good. Keep doing. Now I want you to focus on your breath. Feeling the air moving in and out your lungs. Now with each breath, allow yourself to relax more deeply. Feel the weight of your body against the surface you're sitting on and let the ground beneath you support you fully. Now imagine any stress or worry flowing out of you with each exhale, leaving you lighter and more at ease.
Seeing your six-month healthiest self
Billy BossNow imagine yourself six months from now, having achieved your dream health. Picture it as clearly as you can. What does your life look like? What do you see yourself doing? Are you excited? Are you exercising with ease? Walking through nature, feeling vibrant and strong. Maybe you're running a race, signing up for a class that you always wanted to do, or simply enjoying your body's newfound energy. Picture it in detail. Where you are, where do you see yourself? What are you doing? And who are you with? Let this image fill your mind. Now what do you see around you? I want you to notice the colors. I want you to notice the bright colors. Picture your favorite color. I want you to notice the shapes. I want you to notice the scenery. Imagine yourself feeling light and healthy. See the joy in your face, the glow of health radiating from you. Now what sounds are you surrounded by? Hear your feet hitting the ground as you walk or run. Capture that sound. Maybe there are people cheering you on. Or you hear yourself laughing, feeling proud and energised. Listen to your breath. Steady and strong. Hear the positive affirmations from others or from within yourself. What are you saying to yourself? I'm proud of myself. I can do it. I am unstoppable. I'm unbreakable. I'm limitless. I can do it. I believe in myself. Anything is possible.
Embodying the feelings, choices and affirmations
Billy BossI can conquer it. Now turn into the physical sensors of being your healthiest and happiest self. Feel the energy in your body as you move freely and comfortably. Do you feel light and strong or do your muscles feel relaxed and at ease? How does happiness feel physically? Maybe it feels like warmth in your chest, lightness in your steps, or a sense of expansion through your body. Embody these feelings and allow them to feel every part of you. Feel the joy, the confidence and satisfaction of being your healthiest, happiest self and most confident self? Think about choices you are making in this new version of yourself. What decisions are you making now that you wouldn't have made before? Are you making healthier food choices? Enjoying physical activities more or setting healthy boundaries that serve your well-being. Notice how these decisions are reflecting your transformation. See how each choice brings you closer to the life you envision for your amazing self. Now repeat to yourself with such a certainty, silently or loud, I am capable of achieving my dream health. I'm worthy of feeling vibrant. I'm worthy of feeling strong, and I'm worthy of feeling confident. Every day I'm becoming the healthiest, happiest, and most confident version of myself. Believe these words deeply. Feel them resonate in your body. Trust that this vision is possible and belongs to you. Know that you can make it your reality, and the more you visualise it, the more real it becomes. Now as you begin to bring your focus back to present, take a moment to appreciate this future version of yourself. Let the feelings of health, happiness, and confidence linger in your body. And when you are ready, slowly begin to wiggle your fingers and your toes, gently coming back to the present moment. And when you're ready, only when you're ready, open your beautiful eyes.
Returning to the present: journalling the vision and why it works
Billy BossMy friend, know that this journey is unfolding for you. Every time you close your eyes and visualise this version of yourself, you are reprogramming your subconscious mind to align with your health and happiness. Your transformation is already happening. Feel empowered, knowing that you are on the path to becoming your healthiest, happiest, and most confident self. Now, as you're feeling radiant and full of high energy, I'm inviting you to grab a pen and paper and take a moment to write down your new self. Whatever comes to your mind, what does this healthy, confident version of you look like? How does this new version of you feel? What actions are they taking every day, or rather, what actions are you taking on every day? Write about your dream health and don't limit yourself. This is a mind dump where you get everything out. Think about what health means to you, what it feels like to have that healthy body, and what might have been preventing you from reaching that goal in the past. Imagine this ideal version of yourself fully alive. How do you speak? How do you speak now? How do you walk? And how do you interact with others? What choices are they making for their health and well-being because of you? Write it all down and do not leave anything behind. Now, my friend, let me tell you, I did the same exercise myself over eight years ago with my coach. And honestly, I was skeptical at first. Oh my goodness, you should have seen me. I was so embarrassed to do it, I was in denial, some certain doubts crept in, it felt vague. But here's what I learned. Your mind doesn't know the difference between what's real and what you imagine. And here's an example. Picture biting the juicy lemon. And even though you're just imagining it, I'm sure your mouth is watering right this moment. Come and come and do it with me. Just picture that beautiful big lemon you're holding in your hand and you are biting it. That juicy juice is coming out. No doubt, no doubt, your mouth is watering. So this is how powerful visualisation is or imagination is.
Turning your health vision into practical daily actions
Billy BossI also like to see clearly when I when I write things down, what am I writing? And that actually becomes my daily go-to project. I'm seeing it every day. What I wrote, what are my actionable steps? What are my actionable steps that I need to take on a daily basis that will take me to where I really want to be? And guess what? Why A2? Because I become so creative with it. For example, I have distances of my runs. I will be so creative to the point to put areas in which I'm running. Distances. I also set weekly kilometers and monthly challenges. I book my marathons or half marathons. So I can be so creative with my actionable tasks. And when I'm so creative, it actually gives me more joy and more willingness and some invisible energy that pours into me that I really now want to do this. So become creative with your actionable steps. You can start writing about your food intake, when you eat, how you eat, with whom you eat, water intakes, supplements, detox days. How are you taking care of your hair, of your skin? What are your routines, rituals? What is your gut health? Are you taking any protein shakes? Regular doctor checkups. Oh my goodness, in last 12 months, I really have um done the record of my entire life with my doctor checkups. So put that there as well. Are you meditating? Um, how are you looking after your spiritual needs, prayers, Bible studies, stun with your family, journaling, de-stressing, gratitude list? There is so much that you can put on your actionable paper, a two-size sheet where you may be worried, oh, I don't have enough to put there. I also put things that I'm reading, listening to, some certain podcasts. I think your Billy Boss, you know, podcast, the boss confidence should be there as well. So there is so much to write. Whatever comes to your mind, write it down. And by the way, those things that I just mentioned, they are part of my actionable steps for my healthier self. And yes, become creative, become creative. Now remember
The 30-day practice: progress, tracking and closing encouragement
Billy Bossthat this exercise isn't just about the dreaming, this is about starting a new practice that programs your mind and body for success. So let me say this again. This is a new practice that reprograms your mind and body for success. This exercise isn't about dreaming, it is about dreams becoming your reality. Embrace the mindset that this works for me. I am capable and I will make progress every single day. So I really want you to have the approach to trust the process. If it's working for me, and if you allow for yourself, it will work for you. Now, this can be also a little challenge for you. Give yourself permission only for 30 days to visualise your new self regularly. Now, in those 30 days, focus on progress, not perfection. Also celebrate small victories like eating more vegetables, walking more, or feeling less stressed. Now, every small step leads to your better health. It will actually lead you closer, it will move you closer to your dream health. Set those achievable goals, break them down into daily, then weekly or monthly milestones. Aim to drink more water, add exercise to your routine, or practice meditation regularly, and remember to reflect on your progress often. And when you reflect on your progress, I want you to ask yourself, How am I doing? What needs a bit of adjustment? Now, this ongoing reflection will help you to stay on track, my friend. Now, by committing to this process, you will begin to create a clear vision of who you want to be, and every step will lead you toward your healthiest, happiest, and most confident self. Now to make your life a little bit easier with your actionable steps. We also included one pager vision for success link, and you can find that link wherever you're listening to this episode. Look into description, find the link, and download the one pager for success. In the same downloadable link, you will find actionable steps monthly tracker. So that certainly can keep you on the path of tracking what are you doing and what are you not. So you can always go back and reflect on some certain things, what's really going well for you, and what you might need to tweak a little bit or improve in order for you to get to that amazing new version, the healthiest version, the happiest version, and most confident version of yourself. So, my friend, here you are. I hope you find this episode and this little exercise useful. And trust me, it works. It worked for me, no doubt. It will work for you only if you trust the process. Until next time, my friend, stay happy, stay healthy, and remember, if no one has told you today, you are worthy and you are certainly unstoppable. Big love to you.